Should Couples Pray Together While Dating? One Author Says 'No'
April 29, by Dating and praying together Hess Posted in: Many Christian couples have asked me when it is appropriate to start praying together. But I also believe praying can play a powerful part in drawing a couple together something they should dating and praying together very careful with.
If you are in a newer dating relationship, here are some cautions to think through before you start praying together alone for long periods of time. Praying together can build spiritual intimacy before your relationship is ready. Praying with someone you are dating can be a powerful way of building spiritual intimacy. After praying together alone, many couples will feel a deeper connection to each other.
Early on in a relationship this could make a couple feel like they have a deeper connection than they really do. For the same reasons couples should avoid physical intimacy before the right time, they should avoid spiritual intimacy. It can muddy the waters and lead you to see the wrong things in each other at the wrong times. Praying together can be used to deceive, manipulate and even woo.
Is your prayer life the same in public and private? But for many Christians it can be a struggle to keep a regular private prayer time. Beware of people who seem to be proud or boastful about their own spiritual life. They may be showing you what they think you want to see. Those public prayers may be evidence of deep, solid faith, or they may be an imitation of the real thing. Who a person is when they are alone is who they really are. Do they do some things when there are others around to impress them, but not when they are alone?
Like children eager to do adult things, sometimes in relationships we feel like we are ready for more before we are. We sometimes need wisdom and counsel from others to determine what we are ready for. I recommend saving prayer together until later in the relationship. Let your spiritual intimacy from praying together grow with your relationship, not be the reason your relationship grows.
Keep praying for your relationship and keep the wisdom of trusted mentors and friends flowing unto your heart and mind. Andrew Hess is the senior editor of ChurchLeaders. He teaches Bible and Psychology classes at Colorado Christian University and is a graduate of Denver Seminary. His writing has been dating and praying together on The Gospel Coalition, Leadership Journal and Boundless. When not working, Andrew is usually enjoying scenic Colorado, teaching Sunday school, or buying a priceless antique at a local garage sale.
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